I tend to get tired of all the nonsense on TV, but when I saw the announcement that Tony Robbins, the man who has been inspiring people to transform their lives for the last 35 years, had a show I admit I was curious. Earlier this week, I started watching Breakthrough. For the next 6 weeks Tony will be featuring stories where he takes people with tragic circumstances on a 30-day journey of healing and transformation.
This past week Tony worked with a couple, Kristen and Frank, who lost their dream life on their wedding day. Frank suffered an accident immediately after their “I Do’s,” and became a quadriplegic. As a result, they’ve been living a life of complete limitations with no joy…they believe they can’t leave the house, she’s afraid to leave him alone, he feels guilty for ruining her life…it’s “their story”.
Through many exercises and experiences, Kristen and Frank learn the power of re-writing the story they are living to completely change the quality of their life. They come to realize that the quality of your life is where you live emotionally (frustrated and angry vs. grateful and optimistic).
We can definitely learn from Kristen and Frank’s journey and transformation. No doubt our divorce is one of the most personal and painful challenges we will experience in our lives! We need to give ourselves time to heal, but in the end we have a choice how we allow our divorce to affect the rest of our lives. We can grow from the stress, or let it hold us back. We can be the martyr or the victim, or we can have a life that’s alive and passionate. We can be bitter, or we can use it as the catalyst to take action and create a life that is better.
So, are you still living the “story” of your divorce…how your husband cheated on you; how he abandoned your family; how he ruined your life, etc…or have you used your divorce for a breakthrough??
I would love to hear your stories of creating a better life after divorce!Please share them here.